Stages of Grief


What is grief?

Grief is emotional feelings caused by a change or an end in a familiar pattern of behavior. When grief is being expressed it comes from a loss of a person, divorce, possession, etc. Mourning would be another way to express your loss.


What causes grief?

Losing something or someone important can cause grief.


Symptoms of grief


There are many symptoms of grief that can affect many parts of your life. You may experience some but not all of these symptoms.

  • A lump or tightness in your throat when you think about your loss

  • Anxiety

  • Crying at things that are not normal to cry about

  • Depression

  • Difficulty talking about your loss

  • Feeling like you cannot breathe

  • Having trouble making decisions

  • Loss of appetite

  • Changes in moods

  • No energy to do activities

  • Repetitive talk about your loss

  • Trouble sleeping 

  • Unable to pay attention

  • Chest feels heavy and rapid heartbeat

  • Sadness

  • Hospice, a service that you and your family can use, if you are experiencing grief over a death.  This service is also provided for other grief experiences



The following are good ways to help you deal with grief:

  • Give yourself time to heal

  • Ask family and friends for help

  • Cry when you need to

  • Face your pain. Find someone with whom can talk to and share your feelings.

  • It’s ok to be angry about your loss.

  • If you have setbacks, do not panic. Be nice to yourself.

  • Keep a diary or a journal. Try painting, singing or playing a musical instrument.  Letting your feelings come out creatively is very helpful in working with grief.

  • Learning more about grief will help the healing process.

  • Sometimes, caregivers might suggest short-term medicines.

  • Take care of yourself. Eat well and get plenty of sleep.

  • Try to accept the loss.